What to Do If You Find Out Your Friend Was Raped in Kenya

 

Discovering that your friend has been raped can be overwhelming and distressing. As a supportive friend, your response can play a crucial role in their healing process. Here are steps you can take to provide emotional, legal, and medical support.

Stay Calm and Listen

Your friend is likely in shock and distress. Stay calm, listen without judgment, and offer reassurance. Avoid blaming them or asking why it happened. Instead, say things like:

  • "I believe you."

  • "It’s not your fault."

  • "I’m here to support you."

Encourage Immediate Medical Attention

Medical care is crucial, even if there are no visible injuries. Your friend should visit a hospital as soon as possible for:

  • A medical examination to check for injuries

  • Emergency contraception (if needed)

  • Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP) to prevent HIV, best taken within 72 hours

  • Collection of forensic evidence in case they decide to pursue legal action

Recommended facilities include:

  • Gender Violence Recovery Centre (GVRC) at Nairobi Women’s Hospital – +254 703 618 472

  • Public hospitals with gender-based violence (GBV) recovery centers

  • Kenya Red Cross Society (Call 1199 for emergency help)

Report the Crime (If They Choose To)

Rape survivors have the right to report the crime, but it should be their decision unless they are in immediate danger. If they choose to report:

  • Accompany them to the nearest police station (GBV desk)

  • Call the National GBV Helpline – 1195 (toll-free, 24/7)

  • Seek legal aid from FIDA Kenya (+254 722 509 760) or the Coalition on Violence Against Women (COVAW, +254 729 471 341)

Offer Emotional Support

Survivors often experience guilt, fear, or trauma. Be patient and remind them that:

  • Healing takes time

  • They are not alone

  • Professional help is available (e.g., therapy and counseling)

Mental health support is available at:

  • Usikimye – A crisis intervention organization (+254 799 966 679)

  • Healthcare facilities offering psychological counseling

  • Amani Counselling Centre & Training Institute

Respect Their Decisions

Your friend may not want to report the assault immediately or seek professional help. Respect their choice while encouraging them to take steps toward healing and justice when they are ready.

Educate Yourself and Others

Understanding rape laws in Kenya, survivor rights, and available resources helps in offering informed support. You can also participate in advocacy efforts to combat gender-based violence.

Final Thoughts

The best way to help your friend is by being present, patient, and supportive. Encourage them to seek medical and emotional help while assuring them of your support. If they are in danger, contact the authorities or a trusted organization for intervention.

e Gender Violence Recovery Centre at the Nairobi Women’s Hospital and they will schedule a counselling session for you.